Follow these four steps to help prevent migraines from coming between you and your new partner.
His favorite food is Italian, while you’re in love with sushi. You’re all about waking up early to seize the day, while she prefers to burn the midnight oil. New relationships are all about navigating the habits, quirks and traits that make you tick. And while it’s easy to let your partner know where you’re coming from when it comes to favorite TV shows, it can be harder to reveal the more personal information “You’re showing a vulnerable side of yourself, which can be scary,” explains Lisa Brateman, LCSW, a relationship therapist in New York City. “But vulnerable doesn’t mean weak. It’s a big step in a relationship to let a partner know what you need and how they can help.” Here are four steps that may help you talk about migraines — and help make your relationship even closer in the process.
Give Them Advance Warning.
The best time to tell them isn’t in the middle of an especially bad migraine attack, says Brateman. Wait until you’re feeling better and you’ll be able to answer any questions they might have regarding your migraine symptoms. And remember, everyone has issues—you may have migraines, he may have another health challenge. “Think of clueing him in as an experience that can make you closer,” suggests Brateman.
Let Them Know What to Expect.
Giving clues into how migraines affect you will help them recognize migraine symptoms when they come. It’s unnerving and scary to let someone you care about see you in pain, but giving them an overview can take away the shock and help them become better equipped to focus on your needs.
